Feeling Wobbly?

If you are feeling wobbly, you might want to
consider that you don't have a firm foundation
in place to hold you up.


You could potentially look at the universe
of you as four circles, the first of which
is Self Awareness. Knowing yourself is an
important foundation piece for who you are
and who you want to be.

If there is a shaky self awareness, you
will have a shaky foundation on which you
are built. Self awareness is one of those
things that isn't always easy, and many
times is glossed over.

The only problem is that when you gloss
it over you can run into difficulties
as you don't know what you are building
upon.

After you have the self awareness, it
helps you to identify your needs, values,
and beliefs which further enhances your
foundation. If you don't know who you
are, others will define these for you -
family, friends, bosses, advertisers...
and you might feel lost, as what you
think you should do is based on nothing
more than someone else's desires for you.

When you know what your beliefs, values,
and needs are, then you are better able
to explore options and take actions that
suit who you are. There is confidence
and conviction. You know what you are
doing, without confusion.

We take actions all of the time, but if
they're not based on our values and beliefs
which are based on a self awareness, the
actions, and our life in general may feel
quite hollow.

Once you know yourself, are clear about
your values and beliefs, know the best
actions to take, then you can even step
up your game by asking questions that
empower you, and help you decide what
best is next.

Often people wonder what is next, and don't
have a clue, or much of one, because the
foundation hasn't been set.

The clearer you are, the firmer the foundation,
the better the "build" of who you are. The
less you are willing to look at things
from the start, the more likely your world
will feel like it is imploding when something
seems to go wrong, and worse yet, you'll
wonder why. You may not even know what to do,
as you have nothing to go back to.

The best thing you can do for yourself is
take the steps to figure out who you are;
it will give you a place to refer to in a
time of need and help you get to wherever
it is you might like to go. We all want to
get somewhere, but you'd probably agree that
all maps don't take you to all places. The
best map to get you where you want to go
comes from within you, and it has a great
guidance system - if you follow its directions.
It'll also get you back on track, if you get
lost.

Without it, you might just feel like you are
going around in circles.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.
Want help creating clarity? I can help.

Have a great night.
 

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When Self Protective Behaviors Can Be Destructive

I just read an article about how one
might be able to spot those who want
to do us harm by the type of watch
they wear. According to the article,
the reasoning has something to do
with certain connections made by
investigators.

It made me think about a Twilight
Zone episode that I just recently
watched. In the episode, a street
in America is going about their
business, when it seems an asteroid
flies over, although no one is sure
what it truly is.

Odd things start to happen. Cars
won't start, lights won't light,
phones won't work.

There is a kid on the street who
tells everyone what "they" - the
aliens - want, according to the
stories. "They" don't want anyone,
but those sent down previously who
look like humans, to leave.

At first, what he said is laughed
off. But then one of the neighbors
is trying to start his car. He
can't seem to, but then suddenly
it starts, when he is no where near
it. And, then, in a bit it shuts
off in an equally mysterious manner.

Everyone else begins to think that
he must be the alien. After all,
nothing works for anyone else, so
if it works for him, then he must
be the alien.

Watching it I couldn't help but
think why would an alien want to
draw attention to himself in such
an obvious way...but it is apparent
that no one is rationally considering
that possibility.

As the day goes by, those who are
affected seem to be more and more
willing to look for things in any
of those who live on the street
that would be a reason to believe
THEY are the alien.

The guy whose car wouldn't start
also seemed to have an insomnia
problem, so he would sometimes at
night come outside and stare at
the sky...of course THAT had to
mean something.

The situation keeps escalating,
as lights in different people's
homes flicker on and off, and
as it does, the camera pans
back, and you see two speaking.
One is explaining to the other
that the events that have just
occurred have happened every
time they have set up the same
conditions. Essentially, it is
explained, that humans will
ultimately destroy themselves.

We may not know if the type of
watch someone wears is a "sign"
of bad things, but what we do
know is that if we're not
careful, our fears will have
us be reactive to the point that
we won't have to worry about
someone else destroying us, we
will destroy ourselves first.

Nothing has any meaning, except
for the meaning we give it. It
can be both helpful (stove=hot=
burn) and detrimental, depending
on the circumstance.

This applies to all types of
things and situations, and to
something as simple as an
argument with a loved one.

How often do our assessments
and interpretations wind up
hurting us more than helping?

It may seem we are logically
protecting ourselves, but if
were not careful that protection
system will help us self destruct.

Consider that the next time you
judge someone a certain way by
the way they tie their shoelace
or, even worse, have shoes without
laces.

I realize I may be oversimplifying,
but it sadly may not be too far
from some of the scenarios that
are all too real.

As always, just a little
something to consider and,
interested in hearing your
thoughts.
 

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